Grief can bring to the forefront all sorts of interesting conditions, exacerbate existing ones, and conjure some out of thin air. For me, stress is a huge trigger of existing conditions, and what is a bigger stressor than GRIEF??
My OCD has definitely kicked into high gear. I can't eat a meal if my food is touching, and my bathroom floor is so clean and sterilized, I could probably eat my own non-touching meal off of it. I think I locked and relocked my front and side doors so many times I think my kids think that I have lost my mind.
My mood swings have been particularly interesting. One minute I am singing and happy and laughing...the next minute I am chewing someone's head off. Sometimes I am running on 2-3 hours of sleep a night, sometimes I want to sleep for a whole day. Ever have one or more of those days where you are so depressed that you can't even shower? Yeah....try 3 or 4 of those in a row. Shortly followed by 3 to 4 days where I want to shower about 6 times a day. Fun, right?
The panic attacks are SUPER FUN too!! Ugh. Right. Nothing like going along blissfully through your day and then...WHAM! Heart pumping, thoughts racing, face flushed, breath short.....all in the middle of doing something that should so not have prompted it.
It has also brought to the forefront a intense fear of commitment. It is crazy. I have this wonderful thing right in front of me, and I am doing my best to sabotage it. Being standoffish, picking fights, needing my space, balking at any kind of talk of together-type things, and obsessing over the most insignificant things and turning them into huge issues. The fact that he is sticking around surprises me every single day.
Moving and unpacking I'm sure has not helped either. There I am cheerfully unpacking boxes that I think belong to my son, and I come across B's wallet.
Then I come across some old Father's Day cards.
Then I find his picture in a frame.
Then one of his collectibles.
Then I cry.
Triggers are unavoidable, I know that. I know that the grief monster loves to rear his head at THE most inopportune time. I know that over time these triggers will not overwhelm me so much. I also know that, for the first time in months, I am grieving FIERCELY. One other thing I know is that i will get through this.
What triggers do you have? How are you getting through it?